Another nice thing about having a vacation is that you get to watch what you wanna watch on tv when you want to watch it. The other night I was flipping through the channels, around 1:30 a.m. in the morning or so and I stumbled upon the latest special by former porn star Katie Morgan. The program was like a variety show - comedy, sex tips and porno clips and personally, I thought she was very funny with some of her jokes! Of course, being a gay male, I wasnt too thrilled about watching her prance all over the place totally naked with her shaved oonie on show for the entire world, but I've noticed over the years that that's how she does all of her specials that show up on many of the HBO chanels out there - totally in the buff. Hey, more power to her I guess, after all, she is a former porn star so it makes sense that she'd be 101% totally comfortable with showing everyone her business whenever she pleases. However, be that as it may, there's something I noticed about her that I have noticed not just about porn stars in general these days, but about alotta everyday folks too - people really get into shaving their genitalia!
Now, right off the bat (no pun intended), I have been wanting to write about this type of phenomena since around 1994 or '95 and after all these years I finally have the opportunity to do so. Most people probaly consider shaving oneself down you-know-where a preference or a habit or a form of personal hygiene. Actually, I think it can be any or all of the three, but regardless of the reasoning of why people do it, I think preference is probaly the main reason. And I think that's important because something as personal as that should strictly be a matter of personal choice.
In fact, I dont have a problem with anyone who wants to shave whichever parts of their bodies they want to, that's totally up to the individual. However, what I do have a problem with are the folks out there who insist that EVERYONE should shave their gentitalia because it's more cleaner that way, it's better personal hygiene. That's where this subject falls into the realm of personal opinion. That's fine but my opinion is different. Again, if a person wants to do that, great, I'm happy for them but just because this-n-person does it doesnt mean that I or anyone else has to do it. Let's disect this subject a bit further, beginning with the various reasons of why people do it.
For starters, some folks will tell you they do it because it feels good and it's "hot" to them. If it makes you feel good, hey, I'm happy for you but I for one know for a fact that it would not make me happy because I'm one of those more all-natural folks when it comes to body hair, regardless of where it's located. Would it make me personally feel good to caress or rub someone's bare areas around their genitalia? Quite frankly, I dont know because all the men I've been with have been quite endowed hair-wise in that area of their bodies. I guess I'd have to give it a go before I can form an opinion on it either way. As for "hot?" That too is totally a matter of personal conjecture. For myself, at least from viewing it on a screen or in a magazine, it doesnt do a damn thing for me. Hot for me is someone simply being all-natural, they either have a little, some or a lot of hair down-you-know-where and that's perfectly fine with me, no complaints here.
With regards to the above I guess this is one of those times when I am actually thankful that I usually avoid one-night stands for the most part. Those of you who have read my previous pieces already know that I'm one of those rare types of people who actually finds sex funny and/or comical at times! I mean, can you imagine me having a one-night stand in this day-n-age? So I'm getting hot-n-heavy with the guy, ya know, smooching, touching, all that serious foreplay stuff which most people find titilating but which I am always giggling during(!), and alla sudden he starts to unzip his pants. We get closer. Closer. And then he mumbles something semi-sexy/smart-ass like most guys do such as "Here it is, Baby..." so I look down, and see a totally shaved crotch!! Now, most people would think to themselves "Oh, hmm, that's nice" and keep right on going. Not me. The first things that would come outta my mouth would be "Oh my God, what happened? Are you okay!?!?! Where is it!?!?!" Of course we all know what would happen next, I'd be getting my clothes on and the guy would either be driving me home or giving me fare for the T because let's face it, most people have no sense of humor when it comes to sex! And that's okay, I'm not judging anyone, I just know myself well enough to know how I personally would react in that scenario,
The issue of it being "more cleanly." With the way the human body sweats, I can see other peoples viewpoint from that angle; however, here's where I have a problem with that line of reasoning. Unless you're one of those people who gets into what they call really REALLY nasty, raunchy, dirty sex (which by the way, I do not, it's not my preference), most people do like to be intimate with someone who is pretty much a very clean individual. Also, for the most part, alotta folks dont like sweat smells of any kind and that is fine too. But guess what? Whether you have hair on or near your genitalia, the human body is gonna sweat anyways, it's inevitable. Especially during times like intimacy. Now there's a few guys out there who have told me that "I like guys who are shaved, because it always smells so clean down there." Hey great, I love clean too but what about that slight odor that (I''ll admit, I'm blushing as I write this section because usually I'm not so graphic in my pieces) is often referred to as "cock smell?" Is that there when someone is shaved down there? Cause let's face it my fellow gay brothers, most of us do love fellatio (both giving and receiving) and sorry, but when I'm down there giving a guy a profound sense of Heaven, I dont mind that kinda scent. I sure as hell dont wanna be smelling Dial Soap or one of those Phoenix spray mists, I wanna experience that man in every sense of the word. But again, my personal preference.
If you're a person who actually has to shave your genitalia for whatever medical and/or dermatalogical reason, hey, that cant be helped. And no, I'm not saying I would not become involved with a shaved person (that way of thinking is extremely ludicrous, if you ask me) it's just that because I have no expeirence with anyone who does that, I can only rely on my own personal experiences. I most certainly wouldnt judge or make fun of someone because that was their choice, though I will admit that in certain circumstances if it was a big surprise I might accidentally chuckle or perhaps even have a small guffaw!
There are even some folks who claim that having shaved genitalia actually heightens the senses of sexual arousal. I suppose that could be true but I have no way of knowing. What I do know is that for the most part, the hair located above or around a guy';s schlong, as well as his balls, really doesnt have a damn thing to do with how aroused or how intense his orgasm may be. At least that's been my experience, I'm open to any other opinions on this matter but again, for me, I dont totally buy that argument that sex is better when one is shaved. Maybe it might be in the sense if you're doing somethig like frothage or other forms of stimulative caressing but that's the only arena in which I think that would make common sense.
Do you know what I loved best about that Katie Morgan special? There was a clip in there about that one mouth-like masturbatory toy that's been around for ages, where some naked guy was allegedly demonstrating on how to use it and trying to prove whether or not it worked for the audience. Hell, that toy has been around for years - I remember in the early 90's when they use to constantly advertise it on the back pages of The Advocate magazine. I thought it looked interesting but no, I've never tried it. But what impressed me most about that part of the program is who I'm pretty sure the demonstrator was - none other than former porn star Rick Donovan! No shit, I'm pretty sure it was him! They said he hadda younger brother who followed him into the porn industry, so perhaps it could've been him too but I dont think so. I mean, you couldnt see his schlong or what he was doing with that toy, but it looked an awful lot like him. And yes, what I noticed most was that he was not shaved down-you-know-where. so I did find that very interesting. If it was indeed Donovan, he was unshaved and I was impressed. But like I said, I was surprised to see him on that special cause I havent seen or heard anything about him in years and in the 80's let's just say he was quite well-known for obvious reasons.
Would I myself ever shave down-you-know-where? No, absolutely not and not just because it's not my preference but I know what it's like to be unshaved and not having any say about it whatsoever. Yes, naturally, when I went through the surgery for the Testicular Cancer (an orchiectomy is what they call it) I was totally shaved down there. Then just when I thought it was about to grow back, the oncology nurses warned me that I may or may not lose the rest during my chemo cycles. As fate would have it, the rest did indeed fall out during the cancer treatment period and yes, it did grow back, but not all of it. No, I dont dislike my body because of it but if I hadda choice, I would have the normal, average amount of hair down there that I had right up until the time of the surgery, but I'm thankful for what is there because the main thing is that I'm so lucky to have survived it and still be alive.
Whether you are a former porn star or just your common-average-person such as myself, if you wanna shave every single hair off of your body and basque in that accomplishment afterwards, I'm all for it if that makes you happy. But for me, I'm perfectly content with things just the way they are. Does that mean as a gay male I only like men who are hairy all over the place? No, I'm not saying that at all, I'm one of those love-the-whole-person-inside-n-out types but for myself, unless it's for a surgery or a skin condition, my crotch is staying as is. A few of my closer friends still tease me and say "Oh Spice, you like all that pre-1990's porn!" which is true I do, but it has nothing to do with whether or not condoms were being used, it was because of the way people looked back then. Back in those days the men, not just the porn stars but the rest of us too, were in their natural state all the way. But, that's just my preference, you're certainly more than entitled to your preference too. Thank you for reading.
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