Actually, the requests I am about to mention here shouldnt be specifically directed towards just any new and incoming friendships that I may find myself encountering from here on out, but also towards all existing friendships too. I do appear to write about the subject of friendship on quite a regular basis but perhaps that's because it's something that is a very important part of my life, it's something that means a great deal to me. Be that as it may, I have a couple of requests that I would like to make in regards to any new incoming friends I make along the internet way, as well as towards those who are my existing friends.
First, I would like to request of all of you that as we build our friendships together to try to abide by the following creed - that we as friends agree to disagree with each other and that regardless of how frustrated or angry we may become with each other we both realize that our viewpoints/opinions are mere collections of words; and, that those collections of words are NOT worth disassembling a friendship over. I can only speak for myself. Just because a heated debate may develop between myself and one or more other individuals, it does not automatically mean that afterwards I hold any harboring resentment towards those whom have a differing viewpoint from my own. Now on the other hand, if the subject that is being debated is one of those that the other person simply cannot neutralize themselves on, then please, at least be man or woman enough (depending on one's gender) to step up to the plate, make a general statement such as "I'm sorry, I cannot and will not alter my opinion on this, therefore we can no longer be friends" and be done with it - okay? This bullshit about people being judgemental, holding grudges and other pre-pubescent-like behaviors needs to stop. It's silly, it's petty chickenshit and frankly, I simply dont have the space for it in my life. Neither should any of you.
Second and similar in vein to what I just discussed in the above paragraph, should any of you ever find yourselves electing to "hide" my posts in the open newsfeed section of your homepage will you please do us both a big favor and simply delete me from your friends list? I'm serious. When you do something like that, it's equivalent to saying to the other person "Look, I really dont care what you have to say, nor do your viewpoints/opinions mean a damn thing to me, so be gone with you." Here's my point - if you dont care what the other person has to say, then why would you continue to keep them on your friend list? Even moreso, how can you, in good conscience, claim that person is your friend? It just doesnt make sense. Such rationale defies every single iota of logical, rational thought that exists out there on this great big planet of ours. Look, if you dont want anything to do with another person then get rid of them, put them outta of your life for once-n-for-all. Friendship is a two-way street and if you're not gonna give the other person the benefit of that fact, then you really arent a true friend to them to begin with, are you? I dont know about the rest of y'all, but I dont take too well to one-sided friendships. In fact, they're actually one of my personal pet peeves. So from here on out, if anyone contemplates doing that with me, please, just give me the good ole' heave-ho instead because that would be the more honest, respectful and civilized thing to do, okay? Thanks.
No, nothing has happened to upset or anger me in the slightest bit, it's just that I've been meaning to write about this subject for quite some time now but every time I turned around to pen it, there was always some other pressing issue that demanded just a bit more immediate attention, so I thought today would be a good day to throw all the cards on the table regarding it. Hopefully everyone will be able to respect where I stand on these issues but if not, oh well, it wouldnt be the first time I've pissed people off and I highly doubt it will be the last time either. Thank you for reading.
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